Perfection Isn’t the Goal. All-or-nothing attitudes don't work.
Let Go of “Perfect” and Enjoy the Journey
"You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it." - Maya Angelou
I can't even tell you how many times I've deleted a photograph of myself because of.... well a million different reasons.
I can’t even tell you how many times I’ve failed to run a race.
I can't even tell you how many times I gave up on even thinking about racing.
I tried so many times, only to be sidelined by injury or pain.
I realized that if I ever wanted to realize my goals I'd have to JUST DO IT.
So I kept trying and eventually (finally) ran a 5K!
(Full disclosure: I got injured again. But I did it!)
Along with those attempts I learned how to train smartly and safely, and a lot about goals.
If I ever wanted to have an online fitness business that helps other women eliminate their limits, I'd have to let go of perfection.
If I ever wanted to run races, I'd have to accept that there would be setbacks, learn from them, and keep going.
Have you ever bought, say, a 90-day workout program, then you make it to day 25 without missing a day and then, unfortunately, something happened and you missed a day?
Did you quit?
Many people would.
That is the danger of an all-or-nothing attitude. It simply doesn’t work.
Did you know:
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Here’s a question for you: if you’re running a 5K and your shoe comes untied, do you quit the race?
Take a step back and look at your life and goals in the context of that ridiculous question. Sure, you may not run the perfect race that day, but so what?
You’re not perfect! And it’s OK!
When your shoelace comes untied, you adjust. You kneel down and tie your shoe and then you keep going until you cross the finish line.
"Every great cause is born from repeated failures and from imperfect achievements." ~ Maria Montessori
When we embrace our imperfections we go into the process knowing that we may stumble. That way, when we do make a mistake, we don’t feel the shame that leads us to want to quit.
Because we knew stumbles were going to happen along the path to the goal.
First, you become less obsessed, and when you become less obsessed, the process is so much easier.
Next, you start making better choices.
Let’s say you’re trying to eat healthier. For most of us, restrictive diets are next to impossible. We inevitably eat something that’s not on the plan, feel like a failure and quit the whole thing. We have all done that! Then we don’t start dieting again until we run out of clothes to wear, can't stand our reflection in the mirror, or have a big event we want to look our best for.
For some people, it may even take a major health scare to force change.
If you can release yourself from the need to be perfect, then you begin to realize that a slip-up isn't the end of the world. Eating a few cookies doesn’t make you bad or mean that you deserve a life sentence of shame.
Just make it right with the very next bite.
Lastly, you’ll free yourself up to soar to unlimited heights! Instead of beating yourself up all the time because you’re not perfect, you will celebrate your small wins along the way.
Ok so we've established we’re not perfect.
So then why do we keep setting ourselves up for failure by trying to be?
Did all those running failures make me a bad person?
No, it made me human!
Imagine a life when you can end each day reflecting back feeling positive about your accomplishments, instead of defeated because you didn’t do everything perfectly, or worse, you didn't do anything!
WHEN SETTING GOALS, PLEASE REMEMBER THESE 4 THINGS:
(1) Age does not necessarily determine capability:
Society tells us that as we age, we are no longer capable of doing certain things.
What IS true is that as you age, you'll likely have to change your approach.
I'm 58 and the only real variable that's different now compared to when I was 18 is the attention and emphasis I need to place on recovery and restoration.
I train and eat intuitively and within the context of my goals.
So, it's not that we CAN'T do things, it's that we are allowing society's narrative on aging to BECOME our truth...
(2) Simple + Consistent is what so many are missing:
Those times when we are so desperate to lose weight, fit into those clothes again, get our body back after having a baby, run that half marathon, etc. etc. we robbed ourselves of the only proven method for success.
Play the long-game and you’ll win!
(3) Don't under/over-estimate what it’s going to take:
We often overestimate what can be achieved in the short term, but underestimate what can be accomplished over a longer period of time.
Hold the vision of what you want, trust the process that will take you there and make a commitment every day to doing what's necessary *THAT DAY* to make it happen...
(4) You're capable of more than you think:
Uncover the limiting beliefs you've allowed to become your story.
Be mindful of what you say to yourself because your "belief system" is always listening!!
I am listening too!
Anytime you feel like you want to do something but are unsure of how to proceed, you can always bounce it off me.
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